It's a funny thing when someone calls you a rock. The first time I was called a rock, I wasn't sure what the other person meant. When I asked for an explanation, I was told that I was a person that could be relied upon to provide a grounding force to that person,
a person that could be counted on to give stability when issues seemed to be bigger than what someone else could handle alone.
You May Not Realize It
I'm sure many of you are a rock to someone else without knowing it.
You may not have been called a rock by anyone, but that's how you're thought of.
We All Need Each Other
On the other hand, just because you are a person to whom others turn to for help, advice, a grounding force in life's turbulence, doesn't mean that there aren't times when you also need to turn to someone else to seek help or assistance.
No matter how emotionally solid you are, how capable you are of countering life's issues head on, each of us will at some point in our lives, need to find our own rock to turn to.
We All Have Cracks
Every rock, no matter how seemingly solid, has it's own tiny cracks within. Without assistance, these cracks can expand under constant pressure to become larger and larger. While someone else may see you as their rock, as their permanent mainstay of support, you may also be quietly seeking your own rock.
If you believe
that you never need to turn to someone else for some level of help, guidance, a non-judgemental ear, you may be in denial that every person has to draw upon the emotional resources of someone else at some point in life.
Just like wells need to be fed with a steady flow of new water so it is that your well also needs to be periodically filled with new strength. Being a rock to someone else, to those close to you, to those whom you happen to cross paths with, is to be a person of worth. But, don't deny that you also need to find your own renewable source of inner strength.
How Do You Do It
So, how do you regain your rock status?
The first thing you must do is to find mechanisms that help to recharge your own batteries. For some people, this means that they must take time to find ways to relax that are devoid of any demands or stress.
This could mean that you go for long walks by yourself through pristine forests, or to sit quietly for several hours by a brook or stream and just let your mind go to zero.
It could also mean that you go for a well deserved vacation away from phones, Internet or TV and allow your own inner spirit to guide you to enjoy all those little things around you that you may have been far too involved to notice like the simple pretty song of local birds, or the rapid progress of squirrels as they bounce from one thing to another. Some people also find an escape through the quiet solitude of reading a good book where annoying everyday disturbances like phones or blackberries are shut off.
Help Others But Also Help Yourself
Be a rock to others in need, be a rock of support to those who are facing critical issues, be a rock full of caring, but be a rock who recognizes that you also will experience times when you need to seek your own rock.
Inspirational Quotes for Reflection:
"We're here for a reason. I believe a bit of the reason is to throw little torches out to lead people through the dark."
"We can help others in the world more by making the most of yourself than in any other way."
"While there's nothing wrong in being very productive (kudos to you!), your brain still needs some rest to be fully operational whenever you need it."