So, why is the fine art of complaining so prevalent?
Well, the story is that it is easier to complain than to accept responsibility for what may be wrong in your life. If you accept responsibility for some of your woes, you may have to take action that changes events in your life. Now, why would you want to do that?
It Is Your Decision
The truth is this. You can change from negative to positive only if you choose to. No one forces you to be negative, and no one forces you to be positive. The choice is yours', and yours' alone.
If you really want to change your life for the better, you need to accept the basic principle that it is up to you. You can control your thoughts, you can control your emotions, and you can control what and where you go in life.
Do Not Heed
Nay sayers and negative people are everywhere.
And, you'll also find a host of so-called friends that will tell you that you can't do or have more than they do because this would burst their bubble of complaining. These so-called friends want you to fail so that they can validate their existence - an existence full of misdirection, negative thinking, and expecting everything for nothing.
To begin the process to positive change, make a commitment to yourself that you will be more, have more, and do more.
Be Strong, Be Focused
Once you take responsibility for your own actions, your behaviors, your thoughts, you are beginning to take a positive step forward. Once you start, ban all negative thinkers from influencing you.
Turn a deaf ear to those who would ridicule you for beginning a course that creates positives not negatives. Better yet, associate yourself with positive, encouraging, and helpful people. They do exist.
I believe that the art of complaining is more about a level of insecurity than it is about a person who thinks that they have it all together. I have never met a complainer who has a positive attitude towards life. This lack of having a positive attitude means more in terms of their own hang-ups than about the issues they constantly complain about. However, if you are a complainer, bear in mind that all your complaining only brings you to a higher level of complaining until you are qualified for a doctorate of complaining.
The art of complaining does not mean, however, that you will ever be able to get what you want in life by simply complaining. Complaining is one of the irritants that destroy really true friendships unless of course that friend is also feeling less than secure in their own life.
So, now that we have talked about all the less than desirable features of complaining, how do you change?
The first thing to consider is whether or not you really want to change your life. You cannot change anything, absolutely nothing, unless you first make a decision to change. This change process takes time, takes perseverance and takes a coach that can help you change not only how you think but also how you use your given abilities to alter the course of your life.
Recognize The Right Path
So, let us talk for a minute about change. Change is not an easy road if you have been traveling down a totally different road all your life. The real point about change in being a complainer is that if it doesn't hurt bad enough, you will not change. What does this mean?
It means that you will not want to change unless your life is so bad, so full of pain that you recognize that you must change to survive. I know this may not be the case you recognize right now but it may be sooner than you think. There is little room in life for complainers who refuse to do anything to recover, or to actually do something about all that they complain about. It is not a transition that needs to be accomplished all at once, but even a little change to make a change is important.
"If you don't like something change it. "Don't complain because you don't have. Enjoy what you've got."
H. Stanley Judd
"We can throw stones, complain about them, stumble on them, climb over them, or build with them."
William Arthur Ward