Attitude what does this mean? According to one dictionary the meaning of
attitude is: "way of thinking or feeling about someone or something,
typically one that is reflected in a person's behavior."
Our attitude can be seen in our character, how we approach things, what
our beliefs are, our perspective on issues, how we approach life, our
position on topics, basically our view on life. Does attitude actually
influence everything? My answer would be yes; we all have attitude, the
difference is whether our attitude is positive or negative.
How we react, what we do or say, all depends on our
determines whether we'll be happy or sad. Attitude can help,
or hinder us in all areas of our lives. Our attitude can determine our
success or our failure.
Emmet Fox once said, "You cannot be healthy; you cannot be happy; you
cannot be prosperous; if you have a bad disposition."
And the most amazing thing about
our attitude is that we have complete control
over it. We are the ones who decide how we feel,
how we look at things, how we react.
If your thoughts are constantly of doom and gloom, you will receive
the same in return. You will view the world as cloudy and dismal.
Your thoughts and your perception of the world influences all that you do,
and all that you are, and all that you can be. If you see the sunshine,
feel the sunshine then you feel good. But if your focus is only on the
clouds and the dark sky then you may find yourself a bit gloomy.
If we have the attitude of blame then we never accept responsibility for
our actions, it is always someone else's fault. It is never our own fault.
And then we have the attitude of "poor me". When faced with challenges
and issues in our life rather than focusing on solutions we focus on
only ourselves and have a pity party.
For many years, I worked in a very large corporation and had the
opportunity to actually work my way from the bottom of the
organizational chart to near the very top. During these many years,
I needed to be able to keep going even though I ran into several
roadblocks. Some of these roadblocks were a direct result of my
dissatisfaction with what job I was currently assigned to.
In one particular case, I had to travel extensively away from home
for days at a time. It wasn't so much the aspect of travel that was
the issue or the fact that I could not do the job well, it
was more that I hated being away from my family including my children.
So, rather than giving in to a negative attitude about my work, I chose
to ask for a reassignment despite the fact that I would be demoted.
My attitude was not defeatist but one of being realistic. I realize and
demonstrated an attitude that
my family was more important than my job. But also an attitude of
doing what I loved to do, and travelling and being away from family
was not a love. So I was willing to step back, and by stepping back
I ended up doing jobs I loved to do that also allowed me the time with
my family. So my attitude was one of not giving up but also not doing
what I hated to do.
Over the ensuing years, it was my positive attitude that allowed
me to tackle and successfully complete and compete in many
diverse assignments. On occasion, I was asked to train people
as my supervisor who had less experience and knowledge. Again, I
could have easily been sour or hurt to the point where I resisted doing
anything helpful, or for that matter, being of any assistance whatsoever.
But, not only is that counter-productive, it is also not my attitude.
My attitude is to take the good with the bad and to do the best job
possible despite the odds or the challenges. Instead, I not only helped
train this new supervisor, I went out of my way to ensure that she
was fully knowledgeable about every major issue that she would face.
Bitterness is not positive to anyone especially to your own personal ethics
and to your own inner spiritual health.
Change How You See
Changing your attitude is really changing the way you see things.
To begin the change,
you must start looking for the good in every situation,
rather than the negative. The wisdom
here is "looking for the good in every situation". And, yes sometimes you
may have to look hard to see the good, but believe me it is there you just
have to keep looking. And when you find it, then
focus on it,
keep it in the forefront of your thoughts. But with changing anything it takes
time and our natural tendency is to revert back to our old ways. Just like
changing a habit we have to consciously watch what we say, how we say it, and
what we do. You don't just decide today I will have a positive attitude. Our
minds will automatically go to what we are use to, especially when we are faced
with a challenge or a stressful situation. To retrain your mind you must
constantly be asking the question, "what is the good in this." Thinking about
the "good" will keep your mind away from being angry, from feeling sorry
for yourself, from reacting in the wrong manner.
So, you see the choice is yours.
If we compare attitude to swimming, which are you doing?
Are you swimming - even against the currents and the waves you keep going,
you see your destination and you are taking action to reach it.
Are you floating - just allowing the waves to carry you, you end up where
ever the water takes you.
Are you drowning - you see the waves and the currents as difficulties you
Attitude has always been an issue with people. William James was a man
who was born in 1842 and he died in 1910. He was a Doctor and
an American philosopher and psychologist. He once said, "The greatest
discovery of my
generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitude."
So he stated this in the late 1800's and early 1900's and his words of wisdom
still apply today. If you want to change your life then change your
attitude, you will be amazed how much life changes when this happens.
Inspirational Quotes for Reflection:
"In the end, we can't always control what goes around us, but we do have full control over our own reactions and attitude toward it."
"People can enter relationships - romantic, family, and friends - with the
wrong attitude, the attitude that the other person should ultimately create a
'better' life for us.
"Many teachers and motivational speakers today use the power of positive thinking to help change people's lives for the better."
"If you focus on the possible when you experience difficult situations, YOU CAN positively change your outlook, reduce your stress, and concentrate on achieving things that otherwise may not have been possible."
"You have the power to choose your moods and control your feelings. Your mind controls your world as you see it."
"Positive attitude is more of a philosophy that builds on the fact that having an optimistic disposition in any circumstance of life can help you in enhancing achievement and positive changes."
"When you wholeheartedly adopt a 'with all your heart' attitude and go out
with the positive principle, you can do incredible things."
Norman Vincent Peale