Author: Byron Pulsifer
We all have dreams and desires. Some of these dreams are bigger and bolder than others while some of
our desires are merely things that we want in order to satisfy a lifestyle.
Needs and Wants
We know that there is a huge difference between a need and a want;
a need is something you have to acquire usually on a constant basis for
survival, for example food, clothing, and a roof over your head.
A want, on the other hand, is something is nice to have like a new car,
a new iphone, or beautiful furniture but is essentially something that is
not necessary for survival.
Similar To Goals?
The aspect of needs is also parallel to the realistic achievement of goals. In order to get what you want you have to be able to get what you need. If this sounds strange or a reversal of the normal explanation, bear with me as I explain more.
To some people, the realization of a goal is a psychological need necessary to become whole - that is, without achieving the desired goal, they are incomplete just as if they had food to prepare to eat but no way to cook it. One is a necessary completion of the other.
Now, on the other hand, there are goals that one would like to accomplish but some of these goals cannot be attained without first making it to a sub-level.
This means that one must be realistic about achieving goals. But, this does not mean you shouldn't set a very high goal.
It means that certain steps must be attained first before you can set out to the next step on the ladder to the final accomplishment.
I know a young woman who really needed to feel that she was helping others
and her goal was to become a doctor. However, as she started university,
she realized that she could not bear to accumulate the debt that completing
her medical degree would cost. I spoke with her father just a couple
of days ago, and she told him she was considering revising her goal
to become a doctor but not revising her goal to help people in a professional
way. So, her desire to be a doctor was reinterpreted to help others
by becoming a speech therapist.
What did she accomplish? For one thing, her goal destination was altered
but her need wasn't. Secondly, she was being realistic. She knew she
really couldn't afford the accumulated debt on her pathway to becoming
a doctor, but she could afford to become a speech therapist.
Need Or Want Goal
Not all goals can be accomplished but that doesn't mean you should
not set out to accomplish what you need, and know this, that there is
a difference between a 'need' goal and a 'want' goal.
In the process of attaining a goal, there is something that you should
also bear in mind. And, that is not to be totally consumed by your
goal achievement to the point where all other aspects of life
take a back seat. This means that your life is not meant to be solely
dedicated to reaching your goal without enjoying the trip or taking side trips.
The aspect of taking side trips means that you do not dedicate all of
your available time
just to work
on your goal. It means that, instead, you take the time to enjoy aspects
of life that are goal-oriented. For example, give yourself permission
to take a break once a week to do something totally different like going
out with your friends, or taking a long brisk walk through the park,
or going to the country for a cross-country ski day, or a picnic for the
afternoon with your partner or children. You cannot dedicate every
waking moment to accomplishing a dream
because to do so means that you will never recharge your batteries,
and will compound your stress
levels for lack of relaxing moments.
Inspirational Quotes for Reflection:
"Failures are made only by those who fail to dare, not by those who dare to fail."
Lester B. Pearson
"I cannot stress the importance of having clear goals in life. Goals give you direction."
"What if dreaming the impossible dream enough times begins to make the impossible possible?"
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