There are many issues and challenges
we all face throughout a lifetime
but some are bigger and more emotional than others. Some of these
emotional times come when we take the final step and leave home
out on our own to make our way in our own way. Some others include
or the birth of a first child. All of these motions
springboard us into a new realm of life.
A Difficult Time
Then, there are other even more challenging emotions that one has to
face sooner or later in life and one of these times occurs at the
death of a parent either mother or father. Such was the case for me
several years ago now.
My mother was not well for years before her death.
She had various
ailments including a heart attack, gallbladder problems and other
illnesses from time to time. The final medical problem was cancer.
She was unable, for the last month, to leave the hospital. My dad
would sit by her side all through the day waiting for her to awake
-just sitting knowing that his wife of over forty years was slowly
fading from him and there was nothing he could do.
There would be no
more of one of their favorite activities and that was going for car
rides exploring the countryside, stopping to investigate old
farmhouses left in ruins or old schoolhouses and corner stores.
An Amazing Day
Then, a very unusual event occurred. My dad came to visit mom with a
bunch of roses in his hand as he walked into her hospital room. She
was not awake when he walked in but she soon opened her eyes. She
seemed to be much brighter, her eyes were clearly focused and she
immediately propped herself up on the bed pillows looking at those
She looked from those roses to my dad and said, "Let's go for a
ride in the country, sweetheart."
My dad was dumfounded. He didn't know what to do because it was so
out of character
with a very ill person. My mother said it again; she
wanted to go out for a ride in the countryside.
For whatever reason,
she had bounced back to something like her old self. My dad didn't
know what to say and finally said he would have to go and ask the
doctor if it was OK.