Have you ever gone to a masquerade party where you dressed up
as someone else with a full costume including wearing a head mask
so no one would recognize you? And, while you at this party,
did you take on the attitudes, manners, or characteristics of a person
totally different than yourself? If you have, was this different you more
appealing to you, or did it feel totally foreign?
Do You Masquerade
Well, what is interesting is that there are a lot of people who constantly
masquerade in real life on a regular basis. No, I do not mean that they
attend a lot of parties - I mean that they are not who they really are
while at work, while talking with family, or hanging out with
Why Does This Happen
So, why are some people pretending to be what they are not?
Is it because they feel that they will not be accepted by their work
colleagues, or their supervisor and denied privileges or promotions or
merit increases? Is it to be accepted by friends so that they fit in? Is it to
keep harmony within an extended family unit so that bickering or differences
are minimized? Are any of these reasons sufficiently important that you would
pretend to be someone you are not?
Some may argue that it is important to be someone you are not so that one can
meld into whatever environment you need to, but the question is this, is it
really worth it to be someone you are not? Does being someone false
make you any better a person?
These questions are asked more often than you may at first think. Take
many working situations, for example, a working place where you
may jeopardize your job, future and therefore, your family if you are not
seen to fit in.
Pretending to be someone you are not requires a lot of energy to maintain
the façade, and the need to always be on your guard so that you do not
reveal what and who you really are, what you really believe. This kind of
pretend life requires you to believe a lie because you know who you really are.
Something To Think About
And, ask yourself this question: if you were asked by a son or daughter
how they should act or behave, would you advise them to be someone they
were not? Or, would you tell them to be true to themselves, to be open
to value themselves for whom they are, for what they think, for what they stand for in life, to be in charge of their own destiny and not allow someone or others to tell them how they should act, behave, or be?
Inspirational Quotes for Reflection:
"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself."
"Having good self-esteem simply means that you believe in yourself and your capabilities. It means that you evaluate yourself and your achievements honestly and realistically."
Jennifer Alison, Self-Esteem
"If you're tired of trying to be something you're not, then be yourself.
Once you realize that you are beautiful just the way you are, you can
begin to find freedom in your life and learn to look past the pictures
of what the world wants you to be."