What Women Really Feel as Their Looks Change
Authors - Vivian Diller, PH, D. with Jill Muir-Sukenick, Ph. D.
Reviewed by Catherine Pulsifer
As a woman reaching the magical time of middle age, the subtitle of this book intrigued me.
We all age and, while we can all try and slow the process, it still happens. Our society today puts a lot of pressure on women to be young, beautiful and slim. Most books that you read on this subject discuss how you can slow the process, but this book, "Face It", actually teaches you how to accept it and be happy. It is a guide to help you understand, feel better, and take advantage of your changing looks. This quote from the book summarizes what the book does, "The knowledge you gain as you read Face It will give you a step-by-step plan that maps out how to manage your feelings about your changing appearance."
As you read the book, you will meet woman and hear their stories, their feelings, and how they dealt with the challenge of aging. You will find a variety of different feelings expressed and you may find that what you read perfectly describes how you feel. At the end of each chapter, there are questions for you to consider. It is a book that we would recommend for any woman who looks in the mirror and discovers that they are not happy with the way they are changing.
Some quotes from Face It:
"To truly understand beauty is to view it as a combination of objectivity and perception, as a science and an art."
"It's time we use our knowledge, experience, and fortitude to change the way we deal with our changing looks."
"The challenge: can we keep youthful optimism in our hearts and minds while letting our faces follow their natural course?"
"When there is a shift in self-image - in the very basic way we see ourselves - we feel something fundamental change within us, whether we are aware of its origin or not."
"Watching others age seems more gradual, while our own shift is jarring."
"We celebrate many transitions in life, like graduations, confirmations, bat mitzvahs, weddings, pregnancies. Yet we watch people pass through the latter part of their lives with little or no celebration of that achievement. "
"Life is about moving through stages and not getting stuck in one, which is not to be confused with getting the most out of every current stage."
"As women recognize that trying to return to someone we once were leads to measures that can only fail, we can feel sad but relieved as well."
"Every woman in every generation grows up with idealized images of beauty."
"Aging, at all phases of life, means leaving behind one stage to move on to another."
"Sharing kindness and exhibiting dignity and grace will contribute significantly to feeling beautiful for the rest of your life."
"Everyone ages, and as we do, we all meet on the same playing field. Not one of us can change the course of nature, but that doesn't mean our perspective on this natural process cannot change."
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Thoughts of others on aging:
"In most parts of our society, the idea of 'aging gracefully' seemed to be equated with 'gracefully' heading out to pasture."
Tina Sloan, Changing Shoes
"Aging only happens to people who lose their lust for getting better and disconnect from their natural base of curiosity."
Robin Sharma, The Greatness Guide
"So no matter what your age, young or old, remember it is not your age, but your attitude towards life that will bring happiness."
Catherine Pulsifer, Age and Happiness
"Age does not depen upon years, but upon temperament and health. Some men are born old, and some never grow old."
"There are hundreds of examples of people doing more as they grew older and certainly not doing less. There is a lot to be said about the experiences that life brings and some of these experiences only seem to really jell and mean something after you have reached a level of maturity."
Catherine Pulsifer, How Old Are You
"Staying young is not a secret formula - it is doing a few things differently. So, what are you waiting for?"
Byron Pulsifer, The Staying Young Adventure
"To know how to grow old is the master work of wisdom, and one of the most difficult chapters in the great art of living."