The Principles of Gossip


Gossip is the greatest abuse and waste of time and energy. Everyone adds on his or her own personal bias, interpretation, and bitterness. Gossip is defined as: "casual conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details that are not confirmed as being true."

A Child's Game
When I was younger, we use to play a children's game where we all sat in a circle and one person would whisper a sentence to the next person. By the time it was repeated again to the first person, the sentence was completely different! Gossip is based on the same principle. Things said get distorted, people drop a part of the story or they add a part to the story. Or it is based on speculation or assumptions, with no facts or actual knowledge that what is being said is actually true.

As Mom Use To Say
People who spend their time finding fault or gossiping about others, are certainly not the kind of people you want as
friends. Gossip is usually never the truth. And it is only one side, and as we all know there are two sides to every story.

Those who gossip to you may also gossip about you. My Mother use to say, "If you can't say anything
positive about someone, don't say anything."

Addressed in the Bible
The Bible is full of wisdom and it also addresses the topic of gossip. It is reference many times in the book. Here are just a few of the references:

They visit me as if they were my friends, but all the while they gather gossip, and when they leave, they spread it everywhere. Psalm 41:6

A gossip goes around telling secrets, but those who are trustworthy can keep a confidence. Proverbs 11:13

A troublemaker plants seeds of strife; gossip separates the best of friends. Proverbs 16:28

Fire goes out without wood, and quarrels disappear when gossip stops. Proverbs 26:20

Use Your Time Wisely
Gossip harms, and hurts people. Both directly and indirectly. We all have had some experience with it. When you are the one being gossiped about you end up feeling hurt and disillusioned with those spreading it.

And, we all, at times, have been the one who has said, "have you heard about...." We don't know the whole story but our curiousity starts us talking. Honestly, we are better off not saying anything. We should never encourage the spread of rumors through gossiping.

How do you handle the person wanting to gossip with you? Simply ask if they have proof of what they are talking about. If not, then tell them you would prefer not to discuss it. And sometimes, the other thing that will work is when someone says something, just answer, "really", and add no more, then change the subject.

Nothing productive is ever achieved as a result of spreading, or
listening to gossip. Don't waste your time! You can make more productive use of it.

Inspirational Quotes for Reflection:
"There is so much good in the worst of us, and so much bad in the best of us, that it hardly becomes any of us to talk about the rest of us."
Edward Wallis Hoch

"When you throw dirt, you lose ground."

Texan Proverb

"Two things are bad for the heart - running up stairs and running down people."
Bernard Baruch

"A rumor without a leg to stand on will get around some other way."
John Tudor

"What some invent, the rest enlarge."
Jonathan Swift

"Rumor travels faster, but it don't stay put as long as truth."
Will Rogers

"Fire and swords are slow engines of destruction, compared to the tongue of a gossip."
Richard Steele

"There is just two important things to remember about gossip for it to be caring and not harmful to the gossiper or gossipee. First, we need to be willing to repeat whatever we are saying directly to the person and do it. And, second, there has to be absolutely no judmentalism in it. If we are not clear on these two points, then we'd better keep our mouths shut."
Anne Wilson Schaef

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