There is much that has been stated about personal development goals
and a lot of these wise words have been ignored by thousands
upon thousands. However, if you ignore your personal development
you are wasting the power within.
Power Of Your Brain
There is one thing for sure and that is the power of your brain. No one is
quite sure just how every part of the brain works despite years of medical
research. But, one other thing is for certain - you can convince your
brain to act and believe
in certain things if you condition it properly.
One must also recognize that two components of the brain are the
conscious level and the sub-conscious level - both play a vast part
in everything we believe.
Define What You Want
We probably have heard a lot about the power and necessity of
setting goals if we want to acquire something be that a new career,
an educational degree, a new job, a new house, a new persona.
But, there is one thing often missed in the goal setting literature that must
be talked about much more clearly.
Tell Yourself Where You Want To Go
The one main thing that is missing in goal setting is the power
of the phraseology - or how you tell yourself something that you want
your brain to believe - that must be considered in order for both
parts of the brain to act in unison. The both parts of the brain I
am talking about are the conscious and sub-conscious.
Here is an example. If I say (using the visualization technique) that I am
a doctor, assuming your goal is to be a doctor, your subconscious mind
may say, 'no way - you haven't even finished your under graduate
education yet', you have a conflict between what you are saying
consciously and what your sub-conscious will accept as being possible.
But, if you change the language to something the subconscious
can more readily believe like, 'I will really enjoy helping people as
a doctor' is much more believable for the sub-conscious mind.
The sub-conscious can easily believe that you will enjoy helping
people so this becomes a firmer belief. The two must work hand
in hand in order to make your goal believable, and doable.
Then, you can say over and over again, 'I love being able to
help people as a doctor' which is very believable to your sub-conscious mind.
How You Benefit
And, before you know it, your brain will be convinced how happy you will
be as a doctor and will keep doing everything to move forward.
A solid belief has been created because your sub-conscious mind could
much more easily accept and believe what your conscious mind was saying.
You can use this same technique over and over again as it pertains to
whatever goal it is that you are currently working towards accomplishing.
You must understand the importance of actually believing what it is that
you have set out to do.
Be Careful What You Say
For example, if you have set a goal to start a business, it would a much
clearer statement if you were to say that you would be better able to
support your family than to say I have a successful business.
It is much easier for the subconscious mind to believe that you
would be better able to support your family than to immediately jump
to the assumption that you own a successful business.
The belief system is powerful but it cannot handle a thought that
it completely out of its current range of experience. In the
situation just cited, the brain already knows that you want to better
support your family so it is with this thought that is more compatible
with your established belief system.
Here, below, are just a few personal development goals that you can
claim now and for the future.
1. The Confident Self. Your self-esteem, your self-confidence,
your self-worth is basically what you think about yourself. You decide
how competent you think you are in handling life's challenges
that arise with each passing day. Self-worth says that you are a
worthy person deserving of experiencing happiness and success.
To increase one's confidence
or self-worth is to declare that this
attribute defines your success in whatever you do.
2. Let your body language show your confidence. This means
that you will be better able to communicate
your message more
effectively; it means to demonstrate confidence rather than being aggresive;
it means that you display persistence rather than weakness; it means
that your daily performance speaks of success
rather than being focused
on the problem; and it means that you will lead rather than follow.
3. Develop the mindset of conciliation with others rather than leaning
into confrontation. Learn to establish common ground rather
than looking for areas of disagreement.
4. Eliminate procrastination
and start doing rather than just thinking about action.
Procrastination is not a character
trait you inherited but rather is a habit that you have developed.
Remember that if one can learn a new habit
or a new skill so it is that you can unlearn that habit of procrastination.
5. Rise early and engage in a rewarding time spent in appreciation
of the blessings you have. You are blessed
to be able to go for a relaxing early morning walk free from strife, war or fear.
Use your early morning time to engage in devoting some time to
that book you always wanted to write but never had the time or listen
to an inspirational message
or songs. Each new day is an opportunity
to start afresh, to see each new
day as an opportunity to embrace life's events not fear what lies ahead.
To start out your day on a positive
note is to set the welcoming tone for the rest of the day.
6. Br proactive rather than reactive. Envision yourself as
a creator not a victim; take control of what you believe
and do not allow others to dictate your fate; and, take responsibility
for all your attitudes
and actions not casting excuses onto others for your behavior and results.
7. Don't allow the past to rule your future. What
is past is past and it does not forebode well to relive past mistakes
or transgressions. Move forward rather than being stuck in the past.
No one can redo the past but everyone can create a better future.
9. Develop the habit of reading as a method of continuous learning
and development rather than relying on past knowledge
or experiences to pave the way to future requirements.
10. Become more resilient by learning to focus
on solutions rather than problems. A key personal development goal
that can serve you well both in your professional life but also
in your personal life is the ability to see beyond a difficulty or
problem and turn your brain and actions towards working
towards initiating solutions. Throughout one's life, there are
always going to be issues to face, problems that arise or
unforeseen. So, the question is this: how can you meet each
of these arising issues without becoming mired in anguish or despair?
The answer lies in identifying the problem clearly so that
a solution is the obvious next step.
11. The ability to become resilient is also intertwined with the habit
of learning to reduce stress. Stress
is caused by mounting anxiety over an issue or issues that remain unresolved.
However, learning to seek a resolution does more to reduce
stress than exercising or going for a vigorous walk. There is nothing
wrong with exercising or going for a walk but do not negate the power
of resolution to resolve stressful issues or concerns.
12. Do not allow your comfort zone
to prevent you from adapting to change
or from trying new ventures. To be trapped in what is comfortable
is the same as allowing yourself to believe that you must remain
captive to what was once sufficient for survival. Life is an on-going
series of progressive change and newness. Move forward with
continuous learning and by utilizing those skills that see resolution
not remaining stuck in a problem.
Your personal development goals can lead you forward to a more
rewarding life despite challenges, pitfalls or trials. You do have a
and you do have the option. Your path forward is more than a vision
or a wish but more of an opportunity that can be embraced
right now with each day firmly grasped as a new beginning
for a more rewarding life.
"Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved." Helen Keller
"One must also recognize that two components of the brain are the conscious level and the sub-conscious level - both play a vast part in everything we believe." Byron Pulsifer
"Positive expectation comes from believing that you are worthy of great things, and realistic expectation comes from the belief that if you work hard enough at your goals, you can achieve them." David A. Hunter