How many people can say that they never get angry? Well, I bet the number is zero unless you have learned from a very early age that anger gets you know where.
A Draining Emotion
Anger is one emotion that serves only to drain us of important vitality; an emotion that causes more harm than it rectifies. Anger is a state of loss of control; a state of mind where all reasonable action to resolve the situation or issues that caused the anger is relegated to the back burner of consciousness.
And, if you think that anger can make you stronger, more able to control environments that cause you problems, you are just plain wrong. Let's not kid ourselves, anger defeats you before you even get started.
What Do You Do
So, instead of using your energy without being able to accomplish that which
you want, what do you do instead?
We know that anger is a natural emotion and one that is much easier to engage in than being naturally resolution oriented. What does this mean to you?
It means that you first must recognize that anger diminishes you; it tells others that you have little ability to deal with issues, concerns, or difficult situations with a much more mature and controlled attitude.
Once you recognize that anger brings you nothing but internal emotional stress, you are ready to move forward with a more clearly defined positive action.
This positive action means that you first recognize that something is really bothering you; something is causing you to need to either address the situation, or to let it go completely knowing that it is not worth the emotion, the energy to try and change or address it.
Redirect This Emotion
Any energy that you previously used for anger can be redirected towards positive energy to work to find a resolution.
If you are concerned about the actions of a co-worker, for example, you must realize initially that this co-worker may or may not be aware that their actions have caused you a problem. So, the first step towards resolving any potential ongoing ill feelings is to speak with the co-worker in private. Tell them, without attacking them verbally, that his or her action was unwelcome, or bothered you, and made you feel uncomfortable.
Please also bear in mind that the other person's actions must be severe enough to affect your working relationship. This means, for example, that you should not be picking up on some minor behavior like not saying hello to you.
Reduce Your Stress
Approach issues head on; use your energy to work towards a solution not
to bury your emotion deep within where it can only fester and cause you
Inspirational Quotes for Reflection:
"An important key in anger management is identifying the trigger and what it means for you."
"It is never too late to change your views of yourself. Taking the time to get to know yourself, to understand your past and come to grips with your feelings, can dramatically change your self-beliefs."
"Stress is almost always going to be a part of our lives in one way, shape, or form. The key is to learn how to better manage and approach it."