Anger Is A Wasted EmotionFind ways to look at anger in a different light in this thought. May the wisdom of this thought encourage you not to waste your emotions on anger!
Anger Is A Wasted Emotion
Author: Catherine Pulsifer, ©2012
How many people can say that they never get angry? Well, I bet the number is zero unless you have learned from a very early age that anger gets you know where.
Anger is one emotion that serves only to drain us of important vitality; an emotion that causes more harm than it rectifies. Anger is a state of loss of control; a state of mind where all reasonable action to resolve the situation or issues that caused the anger is relegated to the back burner of consciousness.
And, if you think that anger can make you stronger, more able to control environments that cause you problems, you are just plain wrong. Let's not kid ourselves, anger defeats you before you even get started.
So, instead of using your energy without being able to accomplish that which you want, what do you do instead?
We know that anger is a natural emotion and one that is much easier to engage in than being naturally resolution oriented. What does this mean to you? It means that you first must recognize that anger diminishes you; it tells others that you have little ability to deal with issues, concerns, or difficult situations with a much more mature and controlled attitude. Once you recognize that anger brings you nothing but internal emotional stress, you are ready to move forward with a more clearly defined positive action.
This positive action means that you first recognize that something is really bothering you; something is causing you to need to either address the situation, or to let it go completely knowing that it is not worth the emotion, the energy to try and change or address it.
Any energy that you previously used for anger can be redirected towards positive energy to work to find a resolution. If you are concerned about the actions of a co-worker, for example, you must realize initially that this co-worker may or may not be aware that their actions have caused you a problem. So, the first step towards resolving any potential ongoing ill feelings is to speak with the co-worker in private. Tell them, without attacking them verbally, that his or her action was unwelcome, or bothered you, and made you feel uncomfortable. Please also bear in mind that the other person's actions must be severe enough to affect your working relationship. This means, for example, that you should not be picking up on some minor behavior like not saying hello to you.
When we flip the coin over, anger by others towards you or to a situation that confronts a group is another emotionally charged environment that leads to cause others to be deflected from the real issues at hand. What this means is that when other people are angry, you must first direct your energy to cope or dissuade or reduce this emotionally charged outburst before you can get refocused.
On occasion, you will find that you must confront an emotional outburst by using every once of patience that you can muster because it is much easier to become just as angry with the other person than to deal with their negative energy. This means that you must adopt a style of behavior that acknowledges that there are real frustrations but these frustrations can only be resolved when emotion is contained and that negativity is directed towards the positive. All of these emotions are real but ones that must be dealt with in a positive framework. It does no one any good whatsoever to super heat the environment any more than it is already by saying that the person who is displaying anger is childlike or immature. The secret to deflating anger is not to focus on the characteristics of the person but to focus on the behavior.
Approach issues head on; use your energy to work towards a solution not to bury your emotion deep within where it can only fester and cause you stress.
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