Inferior Without Consent
Author: Catherine Pulsifer ©1998
You are responsible for every feeling you have. If you feel inferior to someone
else, it is because of what you believe. Some people are influence by what
other people say. Rather than having the confidence and believing
in themselves they listen to the opinions of others without considering
their own plan or thoughts. Some people place importance on people who
they think are more important than they are. (A belief of mine is no one is
more important than the next person - we all have a purpose) The
said by Eleanor Roosevelt are words that we all need to remember.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
What Roosevelt is referring to is that we ourselves have the
feeling of interiority because of how we see the other person. This
situation applies to many different aspects of our lives. In a work
environment, some people see the boss and they themselves feel
less important. But, in reality, the boss is just a person like we are.
They are no better than we are. They just have a different job than
we do. It does not mean they are better than we are.
It also means we should always show respect for others, just as we want
people to show respect to us. But, just like us, the boss is a human being
with the same needs that we have as individuals.
How Do You React
How you react to other people's thoughts of you and what you are doing is
your personal choice. If you allow others to tell you what to do and
how to do it you
are not growing, you are not developing knowledge.
I am not saying that we should not consider the wisdom and
experience of others, but, what I am saying is that we need to balance their
opinions with what our passion is. Just because someone says, "it can't be
done," or, "you can't do that," is no reason for you to stop your plans.
To use the wisdom of
Les Brown, "Other people's opinion of you does not have
to become your reality."
It is your decision, and yours alone, to determine the importance you give
to any situation and to any person. The person who knows you best is YOU.
You know your abilities, you know your determination, and you know
You can read all kinds of stories where people
stuck to their beliefs even when they were told they would fail.
One of these stories is that of F.W. Woolworth. He was a store clerk
who thought his boss should have a 10 cent sale to reduce his stock.
His boss rejected the idea. The clerk did not allow his boss to make him
feel inferior. Instead, he took his
idea and put it into
practice by opening his own store - "F. W. Woolworth Store". He then went
on to open a chain of successful stores. Woolworth could have kept working
as a clerk, he could have felt inferior to his boss because he shot down his idea,
but no, he was determined and in the end he was successful.
received many rejection slips before his books were published. Today those
same books that were originally rejected are classic books. A good example
of Mark Twain's philosophy on life is found in the words of wisdom he once
said: "Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people
always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too can become
great." You see Twain believe in his ability as a writer. He believed in the stories
he created and even though many people who were considered superior rejected
his stories he did not give up. He was determined and he persevered and the rest
is now history.
A more recent example is that of Sam Walton, the founder of Wal-Mart. He is
quoted as saying, "I had to pick myself up and get on with it, do it all over
again, only even better this time." If he had given up at his first attempt we
would never know the Wal-Mart of today. I am sure many people told
Walton that there were already enough stores and one more was not
needed. But Sam Walton persevered until he found the right formula, and
once he did he found success.
Yanni also said it
well, "I believed that anything was possible, or at least because I didn't put
together everyone else's 'facts' and believe that winning was impossible."
Yanni who is now a famous musician started out with nothing, changed his
direction, faced his share of challenges but he never gave up his belief in that
he could make the music that was within him.
The Deciding Factor
Other people's opinions should not determine your
success. What will be the deciding factor is your
belief in you - your determination
Your determination will determine how you will face challenges that you are presented with. And
your perseverance will determine your ability to stick with your project. Determination
and perseverance are two factors that will decide your success or your failure. And if it is
a failure, again your determination will see you pick yourself up, learn from your
mistakes, and try again. Be inspired by those who did not let others put down
Believe in yourself and don't give up when someone else
doesn't believe in your goals! Don't let others make you feel
like you cannot succeed.
A Little Push and Pull
Author: Walter E. Isenhour
A little push when the road is steep may take one up the hill;
A little prayer when the clouds hang low may bring the soul a thrill;
A little lift when the load bears down may help one to succeed;
A little pull when the will slows down may help one gain his speed.
A little clasp from a hand that's kind may lift from crushing care;
A little word from a voice that's sweet may save one from despair;
A little smile when the heart is sad may bring a sunbeam in;
A loving word when the spirit droops may help one rise and win.
A little love for a soul that's lost may help him seek God's grace;
A little tear and a "God bless you" may brighten someone's face;
A little deed from a Christian's heart may bless a weary soul;
A little boost when the battle's hard may take one to his goal.
Inspirational Quotes for Reflection:
"Passion is the overwhelming feeling, the burning desire, the drive that ultimately creates change. It is the total belief in yourself and your abilities that nothing can stop you."
"No matter what you do or how hard you try, you will never please everybody. There will always be someone who disapproves of you. However, if you believe in yourself and your strengths, and you have conviction in what you do, you will still be successful."
"Ambition is more than mere desire. It is desire plus incentive - determination - will to achieve the desire."
"Remember, once you have started your journey towards change, the only things that separate those who succeed and those who do not are perseverance and determination."
"We must always keep in mind that whatever God charges us to do something, he always provides us with strength and perseverance to endure any bump in the road that might come."
"Determination makes you willing to do and determines what you are willing to do.
Thus, determination is the impetus for persistence and perseverance for taking action."
"Many of us worry about wasting our time trying something, which could fail, but if you have faith and good intentions, even failures can actually be a success."
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