Going To Sleep Did Not Help
By Byron Pulsifer, © 2011
We all have stories to tell about our father and some of these stories
some are of love,
some are of encouragement
and some filled with sorrow. It's a funny thing about remembering incidents that happened years ago and some of these incidents taught us a great lesson.
My Father Was Away A Lot
One such event happened many years ago but I always remember it as if it happened yesterday. My father was a music teacher
that traveled to farm homes or homes in smaller communities to teach
his students. In his time, my fathe would drive hundreds of miles in
a week going to different locations. He was never home in the evening
because he left home around one pm each afternoon to start teaching
and would return around ten or eleven o'clock long after everyone,
except my mother, was fast asleep.
My Mom Ruled
Mom, on the other hand, was the ruler of the home ensuring that everything went accordingly to schedule, looking after me and my other siblings, cooking meals, washing clothes, cleaning and using disciplinary action as required. Now, it wasn't that I was a little hellion; it was more that there were far too many silly rules that caused me to always be in some sort of trouble.
Mom was a strict taskmaster demanding that we all obey the rules and toiled the line without any excuses. And, when we didn't, there were always immediate consequences. Dad, on the other hand, was never around to have to worry about discipline. But, one day I got myself into a real bind and my mother rather than deal with the situation told me in no uncertain terms that my father would deal with me. Now, this was no idle threat since my impertinent behaviour was being referred to my father, but, I also knew I would be in bed long before he got home.
Sleeping Didn't Help
I went to bed early just in case my dad came home. I figured it this way: I would asleep when he got home and therefore he wouldn't wake me to punish me, and by the time morning rolled around, I would be off the hook with all transgressions forgotten.
Wow was I mistaken. I got up thinking all was well but instead, dad called me in to the playroom. He told me to sit down in the chair directly beside him and then proceeded to tell me how disappointed he was in me because he expected me to do what my mother asked when he wasn't home. He then told me that I would lose the privilege of playing with any of my toys for the next two days. You can imagine how I felt as a young boy not to be able to play with any of my toys for two days; it felt like an eternity.
Taught Me A Good Lesson
You know, I always remember that incident vividly even after all these years have rolled on by. The reason I remember it so well is that it taught me a good
lesson. And, that lesson was that consequences will befall you no matter how much you don't want them too, or how much you bury your head in the sand and think that they will just go away like a bad dream.
Choices We Make
All through life, we make
choices. Some of those choices lead to good things happening and some of those choices come back to haunt us. Consequences will catch up with you no matter who you are, or how smart you think you when you believe that you can avoid them. There are consequences to not taking action toward a dream or goal, there are consequences when you avoid meeting obstacles head long and resolving them, and there are consequences, good ones, when you take consistent action to deal with issues that you have to overcome in order to move your
life in the direction you want.
Inspirational Quotes for Reflection:
"The way to make it in life is to know that you will learn something from failure, and that you have the power to choose whatever you want to do with your newly-found knowledge."
"Many of the messages of modern society can steer children away from the values that many of us as parents would like to instill in our offspring."
James R Morrison
"Mothers are such a part of us that it can be hard to talk about them. We love them. We get mad at them. They teach us, even when we don't realize it. We resist them. No matter what, they are part of us."