How do we overcome other people's opinion of us? When our self confidence is low
we sometimes tend to believe what others think of us. Low self-confidence can
hinder us from achieving all that we could achieve. It stops us from taking
any risks, it stops us moving forward.
We do not have the confidence
in ourselves to believe otherwise.
One individual who has defied others beliefs is Les Brown.
It Started At A Young Age
It started when he was just a baby. He was put up for adoption.
Thankfully, he was adopted by a woman, Ms. Mamie Brown. She was
a single parent, had limited financial resources, and little education,
but she had a big heart. She adopted Les and his twin brother.
As Les was growing up he encountered difficulties in school.
He was incorrectly labeled as a "slow learner". When labels are put
on children, they damage a child's self-esteem. Labels are one way
that can take a person's confidence down. I don't care who you are
we all have areas where we are weak and where we are strong. And
if everyone of our weaknesses were labeled it could have an effect on
our success in life.
However, Les was persistent and determined. He refused to
believe what others believe his abilities to be. He had big dreams.
He had no formal education beyond high school, yet he had determination
and was very persistent. He furthered his education by self-education.
He had a passion to learn, to understand the human potential. When you
have a passion for something it is amazing what you can achieve!
Today he is a very
successful professional speaker and author. Growing up his self esteem
and confidence were low. It took him many years to realize his
He had to fight within himself to get rid of those negative comments. He had
to change his belief system from what he was being told.
An Inspiration For Us All
Les is an example of someone who
overcome others peoples belief. He refused to believe that he could
not achieve what he set out to do.
When listening to his videos and tapes, he portrays confidence.
He tells his story and how he overcame the challenges in his life.
Listening to him speak, and listening to his laugh, which is certainly
an infectious laugh, he is very motivating and inspiring.
Remember the wisdom said by Les Brown, "You cannot expect
to achieve new goals or move beyond your present circumstances
unless you change."
For those who have low self confidence, start reading about the
Les Brown's of the world. Many people have so much more
potential than where they are right now. If you have a dream,
then start today to move yourself towards it.
As Les Brown says,
"Other people's opinion of you does not have to become your reality."
You have to push yourself forward, and when you fall get right back up again.
Always be aware there will be people who will say, "I told you so". But don't
let that stop you. Have determination and belief in yourself. And, find people
who can help you - it is amazing what can happen when we surround ourselves
with people who
are willing to help rather than to find reasons why it can't be done.
Inspirational Quotes for Reflection:
"Your beliefs about yourself often translate into your convictions about yourself. It is difficult to achieve what you believe is beyond your power."
Eugene C. Onyibo
"Most people who accomplished anything, whether in relationships, business, sports, knowledge, or anything else, did so because they first believed that they could do it and saw the opportunity."
"Everyone needs to be valued. Everyone has the potential to give something back."
"However, by learning to appreciate yourself, you give yourself confidence and the assurance that you aren't useless or hopeless and that you too, have something to be proud of."
"We have lots of sayings that stress the importance of risk and the power
such as 'Nothing ventured, nothing gained' and
'If at first you don't succeed, try, try again' or 'Rome wasn't built in a day.'"
Carol S. Dweck, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success
"Success is knowing your purpose in life, growing to reach your maximum potential,
and sowing seeds that benefit others."
John C. Maxwell
"Search for the things that you are good at. Work at them until you are the BEST. You are guaranteed to succeed."
"Believe that you will succeed, and you will."