35 Holding Grudges Quotes For When You Need Help With Forgiveness
Let's be honest, we all love to hold a grudge from time to time, don't we?
It can feel satisfying to mull over how we've been wronged and nurture our position of having been 'wronged' by someone. And it's easy to justify how we shouldn't forgive because there's a certain amount of satisfaction in self-righteous indignation. Weirdly, it CAN feel good... but only for a time.
But once we've had a 'good wallow' in our hurt, we need to let it go. Why? why should we forgive? Surely non-forgiveness is normal. After all, WE were the injured party. Why should we be the ones to forgive?
I'll tell you why, because unresolved grudges, bitterness, and resentment are like cancer on our souls. Wishing someone ill can make YOU sick.
Mulling over it, stewing and indulging in mental re-runs of the same thing over and over again... Who do you think that hurts? It's hurting you (not them).
Forgiving a grudge and - truly - letting it go, is like lifting a weight off your emotional back. You might not have realized how heavy it was until you finally put it down.
We don't need that baggage. It's in the past. You don't need to carry it around with you! No matter how big (or small or petty) this grudge is, here's what I suggest you do with it.
Get a handle on it; write it down and don't leave any detail out!
Be specific about what happened and how YOU were hurt. Then symbolically, draw a line under it. Write the words, 'I forgive you.
Then take that piece of paper and destroy it (burn it, shred it, flush it or bury it) and LET IT GO.
Forgiveness is a positive act and a gift you give yourself. Praying FOR people who have hurt you is also very powerful because you're healing that wound with spiritual balm (prayer is a wonderful way to heal emotional wounds). Injustice is frightening, but the Bible gives us our answer; 'Perfect love drives out fear.
My favorite non-Biblical quote about this is from the late, great, Earl Nightingale, who said it better than anyone:
"Forgive everyone who ever hurt you - really forgive them".
Listen to what he says; it's sound advice for love and for life.
He who holds grudges against other people or hatred in his heart will never be truly happy until he has forgiven and let go of that anger by the best possible means.
John Lennon, Linda Deer Domnitz, The John Lennon Conversations
Never hold a grudge within your heart and mind. It will only destroy you.
Raymond Wells, Spiritual Understanding
Never hold a grudge. Forgive others, and they will probably forgive you, too.
Barbara A. Lewis, What Do You Stand For?
You can never reach closure or peace with a situation until you stop holding grudges.
Bonnie Eaker Weil, Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?
The idea of letting go off the grudge is to deal with the pain without re-traumatizing self.
Ryan Kent, Anger Management
However, holding a grudge is different from remembering.
Laura McGee-Chiusano, The Unclouded Mind
No matter what happens, never hold grudges. Grudges are the worst things in life. No matter if that grudge is justified, it's the poison that kills entire cities.
Pepper Winters, Dollars
Holding grudges are like a tree holding onto its leaves in the fall. Better just let go.
Richard S. Conde, Reflection in a Mirror
Holding a grudge will only consume you, your judgment toward others and the individuals around you.
Brad Taylor, Intentional Success
Holding a grudge will only destroy yourself. To forgive will cleanse it.
Mark McCallister, Head in the Clouds, Feet Treading
Holding a grudge will only affect you. The other person might not even care about the fact that you resent him/her.
Foster J. Pickton, Finally Happy
Quotes to Live by
Holding a grudge will only cause you pain and suffering. Forgiveness frees you from the past and is for your benefit. Being the better person trumps falling into his or her same behavior pattern.
Deborah M. Parise, Break Free from Your Reins
Silence and grudges result in wars making change through power, not words.
Linda Smith Kortemeyer, Spilling the Beans Over Coffee
People tend to store grudges in their heart as "a shield", which mutates to a great burden.
Jean Jourdain Vatelia, Hope for everyday people.
Life is Hard
Resentment and holding grudges are impediments to growth.
Donna Kendall, The Consistent Choice
People who are very prompt at holding grudges are often very slow in giving others justice.
Harold E. Will, Will's Commentary on the New Testament
Holding grudges only exacerbates the situation.
Mark Boynton, Christine Boynton,The Educator's Guide to Preventing and Solving Discipline
Holding grudges serves no productive purpose. It eats at us like mental cancer.
Thubten Chodron, Working with anger
Holding grudges or resentments stops energy from flowing.
Edward J. Langan, Creating with the law of attraction
You may think that holding grudges is protecting you from being hurt again, but it's really freezing your feelings in a very destructive state.
Who has time for grudges?
Matthew Abergel, Gay Stars
Holding grudges is a learnt trait that is quite often modelled by parents or siblings and can be considerably difficult to unlearn.
Amelia Ruscoe, Self-esteem: Ages
Holding grudges is harboring hatred. Afterwards, if these people who hate so much were honest, they might tell you about the pain they processed in letting hatred motivate them so much, and for so long.
Michael Jean Nystrom-Schut, Mountain peeks
Denial is a major component in the grudge holding process. You can't eliminate a problem that you don't acknowledge.
Wood Butler, it's always today
Holding grudges, kills your spirit, chops you down, faster than a cherry tree.
Deborah, Don't Wait to Realize You’re Great
Holding grudges will consume your emotional energy, if you let it.
Jane Powell, meditations for women
Give up holding grudges and you will find your temper is much more easily under control!
Dianne Myers Haneke PhD, Living the Fruitful Life
When we forgive, we do ourselves a huge favour! We claim our powerback, by letting go of our past.
Hanna Kok, Happy Ever After
Holding grudges weighs you down, literally as well as metaphorically.
Rachelle Katz, The Happy Stepcouple
Holding grudges against any person or situation is not good for your health as well as appearance. If you are not able to forgive, you are adding more stress to your life, which boosts your level of the hormone cortisol.
Marko Mut, Natural Remedies for Women’s Health
Hateful and hurtful thinking is always misguided and self-defeating. Ultimately, holding grudges is a form of self-serving control that keeps people at arm's length.
Michael Ra Bouchard, A User’S Guide to Your Mind
Stop holding grudges, and forgiving is essential for moving toward your greatness.
Sherrie Flowers, Five-A-Day
Stop holding grudges against yourself. Quit thinking about what you could have done and what you should have done and what you didn't do. Let go of the guilt.
Jennifer LeClaire, Evenings with the Holy Spirit
Resentment leads to negative energy. So, forgive the ones who offend you.
Meeti Sheth, The Recipe To Be Happy!
Life is too Short
Holding grudges, having animosity, or harboring bad feelings towards someone else will keep you anchored to your past, and prevent you from attaining all of the success that awaits you in your future.
Lionel L. Nowell, You Are Better Than Your Best