Self-care isn’t selfishness. It’s being kind to ourselves so that we can give ourselves away to others. Neglecting our own needs only works in the short term. Self-sacrifice is honorable, but long-term self-neglect (of our own needs for friends, laughter, mental stimulation, and joy) results in exhaustion. Even crack front line troops need time away from the fighting for R&R (rest and recuperation)
Would you treat your body with the foods and drinks you’re putting into it – if you were forcing someone else to take ‘your medicine’? Would your self-talk be too harsh if you used it on someone else?
Surprisingly, people have a higher likelihood of giving their pets medication on time than treating their own ailments. It’s easy to neglect ourselves and ignore our own needs because, well – no one else knows what they are! Here are a couple of pieces of advice I’ve put to good use over the last couple of years;
1. Put some time to one side for silence or quiet time each day. Our lives are SO busy that it’s easy to be ‘on’ all the time when we’re awake and never put some time aside to just ‘be.’ Silence (if you can find some) for 15 minutes will quiet your soul and help you restore.
2. Pray for & help others. Did you know that helping others makes us feel good? Try it, and you can see how – paradoxically perhaps – caring for others leads to better self-care. We are all guilty of pushing ourselves too hard or judging ourselves too harshly. I know I am. The impetus to ‘do better’ is good and laudable, but when it turns negative (I’m not good enough), it has to stop.
So start with self-care today. Read and internalize these quotes and learn to be kinder to yourself (and others).
Published by: Ben Gillison
- Your car won’t run well if you skip its regular tune-ups, and frankly, the same goes for you.
Maria Bailey, The Ultimate Mom
- Despite what those pesky thoughts inside our heads tell us, self-care isn’t selfish.
Jayne Hardy, The Self-Care Project
Put Yourself First
- Taking care of myself is a big job. No wonder I avoided it for so long.
- The golden rule is “do unto others as you would have them do unto you” The platinum rule is “How I treat myself is training others how to treat me.”
Michael Bernard Beckwith
- In modern life we have become so busy with our daily affairs and thoughts that we have lost this essential art of taking time to converse with our heart.
Follow Your Heart
- I get to work before the sun comes up and I leave long after it’s gone down. I haven’t had sex in six months with someone other than myself. And the only thing in my refrigerator is an old lime. Could be a kiwi no way to tell. But here’s the thing, this is just temporary.
Nick Hendricks, Horrible bosses
- Self-care is a state of mind that offers a sense of abundance, a well that never runs dry.
Tracey Cleantis, An Invitation to Self-Care
- Plant your garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
Jorge Luis Borges
- All of us, in all walks of life, are in the self-care business, even if we aren’t doing a very good job at it.
Tracey Cleantis, An Invitation to Self-Care
- Maybe now it’s time to focus on you for a while.
Addison Cole, Seized by Love at Seaside
- At its most basic, engaging in self-care is about self-respect. Self-care is all about taking care of yourself, making that stand and declaring that, yes, you are important, you do matter.
Arin Murphy-Hiscock, The Witch’s Book of Self-Care
- Self-love is the source of all our other loves.
- Who needs self-care? You do. We all do. Self-care is central to living a life that makes us feel good and that we feel good about.
Gill Hasson, The Self-Care Handbook
- The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.
- Self-care helps you stay healthier, live longer, manage stress better, and yes, look better too.
Garrett Munce, Self-Care for Men
- To free us from the expectations of others, to give us back to ourselves-there lies the great, singular power of self-respect.
- It’s time to care for yourself and to plan for the future.
Shirley Bulen RN, Forever Remembered
- You were put on this earth to live a radically fulfilling, purpose-driven, joyful life. You are worthy of this kind of life. You deserve to wake up each day with excitement coursing through your body and spirit in anticipation for what lies ahead.
Editors of Chartwell Books, Self Care
- One way or another, you crave self-care because, on some level, it’s missing in your life.
Suzanne Falter, The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care
Be True to Yourself
- Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.
- The practice of extreme self-care forces us to make choices and decisions that honor and reflect the true nature of our soul
Cheryl Richardson, The Art of Extreme Self-Care
- Dare to love yourself as if you were a rainbow with gold at both ends.
- The greater your gifts and ability to look after yourself is the greater your responsibility to look after others.
Octaevius Altair, 33 Steps: From Conception to Ascension
- Give yourself some love; make some time each day to acknowledge yourself.
Neela Gohil, Bridge the Love Gap
- This is why it’s so important to fill up your cup, refuel your soul, and light up your heart so you can join the party and not miss a single moment of magnificent action throughout your life.
- Caring for myself is not self-indulgence. It is an act of self-preservation and that is an act of political warfare.
Believe in Yourself
- Take some time to rest and recover. You don’t always have to be so busy, or pushing yourself so hard. Step back and take care of yourself. These moments of self-care will add value, energy, purpose, and creativity to everything you do. Find a healthy balance, and enjoy your life.
Idil Ahmed, Manifest Now
- When I loved myself enough I began taking the gift of life seriously and gratefully.
Kim McMillen, When I Loved Myself Enough
- While there might be some confusion about what self-care is and some valid opposition to the term being hijacked by brands trying to tout their beauty products, there really is nothing fluffy or indulgent about self-care.
Melissa Vance, Self-Care Is the New Health-Care
- Do not set yourself on fire in order to keep others warm.
- You deserve to take time to relax, refresh and rejuvenate your body, mind, and spirit to maximize your full potential. Think about the last time you did something to take care of yourself. If you’re drawing a blank, do something about it right now.
Adams Media, The Little Book of Self-Care
- You have a mission. Only you can give the gift you have. You deserve abundance, wealth, and appreciation for your work.
James Altucher, Claudia Altucher, The Power of No
- Step back from the overload and find some time for yourself. You are important too.
Mel Noakes, The Little Book of Self-Care
- I have come to believe that caring for myself is not self-indulgent, caring for myself is an act of survival.
- When we feel good about ourselves we do better, kinder things for ourselves and for others, and we naturally let the good things in our lives grow.
Nadia Narain, Katia Narain Phillips, Self-Care for the Real World
- We’ve all heard of self-care and our heads nod in agreement when we talk of its importance but, in truth, self-care isn’t always easy.
“Suzy Reading, The Little Book of Self-care”
- Grief rattles you to your core. And self-care-giving yourself the things you need physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually-can serve as a vital lifeline during these difficult times.
Nneka M. Okona, Self-Care for Grief
- By actively choosing yourself, you are breaking the generational curses or traumas that have cycled through your family. You activate your ancestral strength. Things like addiction and abuse, they stop with you.
Oludara Adeeyo, Self-Care for Black Women
- My mother always says people should be able to take care of themselves, even if they’re rich and important.
Frances Hodgson Burnett
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